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It’s Okay to Doubt Yourself… For Now

Many of us, at one point or another, have looked in the mirror and questioned our worth. Doubting oneself is an emotion deeply embedded in the human experience, as inherent as joy or sadness. This doubt often stems from setbacks or negative feedback. However, this same doubt, when viewed as a stepping stone rather than a stumbling block, can pave the path to growth and self-discovery. While it’s natural to have these feelings, they’re but transient guests in the journey of life, often teaching us more about ourselves than periods of unwavering confidence.

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The Root of Low Self-Esteem

Unraveling the threads of low self-esteem can sometimes feel like a complex puzzle. The origins can range from childhood experiences, words from a disapproving authority figure, or even a single moment of public embarrassment. Society, with its often unrealistic standards, can compound these feelings. The digital age, with its constant bombardment of ‘perfect’ lives on social media, can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy. Recognizing these triggers is the first step towards healing. By understanding them, we can start to dismantle the negative narratives we tell ourselves.

Reframing Your Mindset

Our minds are incredibly adaptable, capable of evolving and changing. Instead of seeing setbacks as failures, what if we viewed them as lessons? Every stumble is an opportunity to learn, every rejection a chance to improve. By reframing challenges as stepping stones rather than barriers, we begin to develop a growth mindset. This perspective shift is more than just positive thinking; it’s about fundamentally altering the way we perceive our journey and our potential.

“No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.”

Shannon L. Alder
Celebrate the Small Wins

In our race to achieve big dreams, we often overlook the smaller victories that pave the way. It might be as simple as expressing an unpopular opinion in a group setting or pushing past anxiety to attend a social event. Each of these moments, seemingly insignificant in isolation, cumulatively builds our confidence. By recognizing and celebrating them, we not only reinforce positive behavior but also gradually shift our internal narrative towards one of capability and resilience.

The saying goes, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” There’s profound truth here. The individuals we choose to surround ourselves with have a tremendous impact on our self-worth. Those who uplift, challenge, and support us can catalyze our growth. Conversely, consistently negative or dismissive influences can stunt our development. By consciously cultivating a positive circle, we provide ourselves with a nurturing environment conducive to growth.

Accept Compliments Gracefully

For many, the act of accepting a compliment can be surprisingly challenging. We might deflect, downplay, or even outright reject words of praise. Yet, in doing so, we deny ourselves moments of affirmation. By graciously accepting compliments, we acknowledge our strengths and internalize a more positive view of ourselves. This doesn’t mean becoming arrogant but rather allowing ourselves to truly hear and appreciate positive feedback.

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on. Our self image and our habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other.”

Maxwell Maltz
Take Action, Even If It’s Small

Awaiting the perfect moment, the ideal opportunity, can often lead to paralysis. Instead of waiting for the stars to align, what if we seized the moment, however imperfect? Each action, no matter how minor, is a statement of intent. It’s an affirmation of our desire to grow, change, and evolve. This could be as simple as signing up for a workshop, striking up a conversation with a stranger, or setting a challenging personal goal. These actions accumulate, slowly sculpting us into the confident individuals we aspire to be.

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A Wealth of Resources Awaits

Building self-confidence isn’t a solitary endeavor. There exists a vast repository of knowledge in the form of books, courses, and seminars.

Renowned titles like:

  • “The Confidence Code” by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman provide invaluable insights into the science and art of self-assurance.
  • “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero is a spirited call to action, urging readers to embrace their inner power.
  • And “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown delves deep into the power of vulnerability, illustrating how our perceived weaknesses can be our greatest strengths.

And many more! Just pick one and start reading and taking action. Diving into such resources can provide strategies, perspectives, and the assurance that you’re not alone in your quest.

“”If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” 

Your Journey is Unique

Self-confidence isn’t a one-size-fits-all proposition. Everyone’s journey is distinct, filled with unique challenges and triumphs. While external resources and advice can guide, the real magic happens when we align these with our personal experiences and insights. Remember, this journey is as much about self-discovery as it is about self-assurance. And as you navigate this path, our ‘Better Self’ series stands beside you, offering support, understanding, and encouragement.”